Protecting Your Children - Do's and Don'ts during separation

There is no doubt that negotiating and reaching an agreement with respect to your children is stressful, particularly where parental conflict is high. It does not however, have to be harmful for your children in the long run if managed well.

Separation or divorce does not generally end your involvement and responsibilities as a parent. Provided it is in their bests interests, children should enjoy the benefit of both of their parents having a meaningful relationship in their lives.

Often though, parents are so caught up in the negotiation process that protecting their children from the effects of the separation/divorce is the last thing on their minds.

As your legal representative, we not only advise our clients on the relevant law and the prospects of their case, we also ensure that children are protected from behaviour that is not in their best interests.

If you are separating or going through a divorce, then use these guides to ensure that your children are protected during this process.

Don't

1. Use your child as a messenger.

2. Ask your child to report on the other parent.

3. Denigrate the other parent in front of or to the child.

4. Put pressure on the child to take sides.

5. Set up competing activities.

6. Bribe your child with gifts.

7. Make your child feel guilty for not spending time with you.

8. Discuss aspects of your separation or Court case with your child unless it is reasonable to get their input.

Do

1. Keep your conflict away from your child.

2. Listen to your child.

3. Spend quality time with your child. Remember it is not how often you see your child but rather how you spend your time with them.

4. Ensure that your children knows you both love them.

5. Be positive about the other parent when talking about them. if this is difficult to do then don't talk about the other parent if possible.

6. Reassure your child they are not to blame.

7. Give your child time to adjust to the changes taking place.

8. Arrange therapy for yourself and the child to assist with the changes.

9. Talk to your lawyer about parenting arrangements that are in your child's best interests.

If you adhere to the above guides, you will not only protect your children but also your case. Don't give the other parent a reason to criticize your parenting abilities.

If you have concerns about your situation or would like to know more about the parenting matters please get it touch. Book a consultation with our experienced Family Law Solicitor or contact our office on 9281 5088.

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This information is general in nature and is not intended to be relied upon as legal advice. We suggest that you obtain proper legal advice before acting upon anything you read in this article.